Monday, July 24, 2017

July 9, 2017 - First Sunday Alone and Working to Keep My Mind off of It

Family

It is so weird being in Cheyenne on a Sunday.  I don't really like it.  I am used to this day being my full day with the family and I am just alone.  They went to church without me, they I'm sure played on the trampoline without me.  It sucks.  I am thinking that this will be the only time I do this, I hope. 

Work

To keep my mind of just how much this sucks, I am working nonstop.  Today I caught up the editing part of my daily diary blog...which is a months worth of entries.  I also reviewed how to launch a successful podcast and I caught up our todoist which got behind and I did something else crazy that I can't remember what it was.  I just drank an energy drink here at 10:30 pm and I plan to get several more hours worth of work in today. 

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

Money.  We need to make money.  Please God get us back together soon.

Sunday, July 23, 2017

July 8, 2017 - Lost Our Phones and Business Presentation

Family

Today was another day of practically no family interaction.  It sucks.  My phone’s minutes are up…Heather left her phone on the car right when we went on to the highway, lol.  Needless to say, it is nowhere to be found.  I am able to get ahold of her on FaceTime and iMessage, but it is so much easier and more often if we have our cell phones in commission.

Work

I finished two pretty big projects today.  The first was creating a set of Lesson Studio agreements.  We definitely needed it because we’ve had numerous students giving us last second heads up on vacations, or not paying in time.  Don’t get me wrong, they are all still awesome…it’s my fault we don’t have measures in place to prevent all this from happening.  Well now we do.

The second project was creating a Keynote Presentation about our business model and how we plan on taking our band to the national level.  I need this to communicate to our team, clients, and other people as well.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

While I wasn’t able to get much together in the way of family today, the work that I did was definitely work that will get us closer to bringing our family back together and creating more family time.  When people don’t pay us, that’s going to make it take longer for our family to get out of this hole.  So I made a set of measures to prevent that from happening.  This is a long process, but we have to do it right.

Saturday, July 22, 2017

July 7, 2017 - No Family Time Again and Hired a Band Manager!!

Family

I left my family this morning at 6 am to go to work.  Which sucks.  I didn’t get to spend very much time with any of them.  I didn’t end up having a FaceTime session with them. It sucked.  Completely unbalanced day.

Work

Work was exciting.  I had a meeting with an old friend named Aaron.  He has been doing concert promotion here in Cheyenne and has brought it big name Christian groups like Superchick, Mannafest, Pillar, Disciple, etc.  Pretty awesome. I wanted to discuss two things with him: becoming our Band Manager and Starting a Podcast.

I envision interviewing musicians with families on our podcast, discussing how they balance their career and their family lives.  Among other things he can help with, he can definitely help us get people on the show!!  Very exciting!!

As for the band manager part, I was very impressed with his knowledge of what the job entails, and he seemed impressed with our band’s business model.  We are definitely going to be working together!!

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

I am very bummed out about how the family isn’t here with me at the shop.  It is, after all, Dunlevy Family Band Studios…not the Dunlevy Lonely Man Studios.  I am just so bummed out about it.  I am staring at this Green Screen thinking about how cool it would be to teach the girls how to use iMovie to make their own little films.  Very sad.

July 6, 2017 - Dr.'s Appointment and Taste of Actually being a Family Band

Family

Today Heather and I had to take our son to an doctor’s appointment down in Denver.  His appointment went great and his shunt is working well, reducing the amount of spinal fluid to normal levels!!  Thank God!! We took the younger two girls with us as well, which was fun…and interesting.  It was a much needed break for all of us, I just wish that we had a vehicle that would fit the entire family.

We ended up getting back to the house we’re staying in around 7 pm.  I got to hang out with the whole family for a couple of hours…but I’ll be leaving again in the morning…this time for 5 days until Wednesday.

Work

We made a pit stop to Guitar Center to pick up a new guitar slide…as I’ve lost or broken nearly all of mine.  I picked up that is open in the back so you can turn the slide around and play with your finger.

Heather and I also hung out at the shop together, working together there for the first time in over two months.  It felt really good…but at the same time we were bummed out because it wasn’t very long and we don’t know when it will happen again.  I can’t even imagine how far we’ll go and how much we’ll get done with her here everyday.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

It was a much heavier family day than work day.  That is a good thing, as it evened out the work heavy week I’ve had before this.  Again, I would say that it would be much better to have all of our family together in a larger vehicle, but other than that it was a pretty evenly balanced day.

Friday, July 21, 2017

July 5, 2017 - Special Time for 3 kiddos and Feelings of Inadequacy Resolved

Family

We spent half of the day with the entire family, and left for Cheyenne around 2.  We took our son and our 2 younger girls.  They got some special time with their parents.  We took them to the mall to eat and walk around.  They got to hang around the shop by themselves. They had a lot of fun.  We both just wish that we could’ve brought all of the kids.  Hopefully we’ll get a vehicle big enough soon.  

Work

When we got to work, Heather was overwhelmed with a sense that she didn’t belong here (Which isn’t true of course, this is her shop as much as it is mine).   It’s totally understandable…and quite sad.  Everyone in the building knows me.  They know her too, but only what I’ve told them about her.  There is so much to be done here that she didn’t know where to start.

Her feelings of overwhelm and unimportance quickly came to an end when Mark and Sara came by the shop for a couple of hours.  She quickly realized how important she was to this business and how appreciated she is. 


Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

Obviously the moral to this story is we need a bigger vehicle and to live together again to get the balance back in order!!

July 4, 2017 - Warzone and Trying to Book My First Show as a Talent Buyer

Family

Today was Independence Day.  We celebrated by reorganizing the room we are staying in.  The flow is much better now...with good ventilation for the cat litter, better storage system and more floor space for Heather and I to sleep on.  We hung out with the kids all morning while we rearranged and none of us ate or drank anything until it was done.  And we finished pretty quick!!  There's one of those life lessons I was desperate to teach!!

We walked to a park to watch the fireworks...but the walk home was the best part.  It is legal in this town to shoot off fireworks for a week leading up to July 4th.   It literally sounded like we were walking through town during a war!!!  It was crazy.

Work

I am trying to put together my first show for the Asher building.  We are looking at a couple of lead singers from big name Christian rock bands to play solo acoustic sets.  I am worried about it a little though because it would only be 9 days from now...not sure how successful we could make it in this short of time.

I also did a little work on the rest of business...but not much other than practice.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

It was a good balance today.  A little family heavy...but that's ok on a holiday for sure.

July 3, 2017 - 'Ya Gotta Watch Out Kid and Arranging Our Set List

Family

Today was much heavier on the work side of things. I still feel like I'm not adequately giving them guidance and instruction as a father should.  I addressed this today by explaining a song that I wrote for them called "'Ya Gotta Watch Out Kid".  It's pretty much an entire song of me teaching them valuable life lessons.

Work

I was able to arrange all of our songs into a set list today.  That should keep us on track for the show coming up in 33 days.  I also was able to print off chord sheets for a couple of new covers we're going to do, as well as begin arranging "Lean On Me". 

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

I need to be more intentional about teaching the kids life lessons in a daily basis.  It is a very difficult thing to do when you don't live in the same town for most of the week.

Thursday, July 20, 2017

July 2, 2017 - Money-Grabbers and No Work!!

Family

Went to church with the whole family this morning again.  The kids are surprisingly well behaved there, which is very nice.  We hung out all day again with no work.  I made up another new trampoline game called "Money-Grabbers" where the kids scramble around trying to get coins while I bounce the money and the kids around like crazy.  It was a lot of fun.

Work

I did no work today, other than a little practice on the uke and a little bit of communication with Aaron the concert promoter.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

I do feel like I am a little heavy on the playtime side these days.  Not sure if that is a natural consequence of being gone all week or if it's just me not planning adequately.  The kids are still respecting me and behaving very well...I just feel like I am not doing a great job of teaching them useful life lessons.  I need to figure out how I can change that.

July 1, 2017 - Rolyman and My New Title "Venue Talent Buyer"

Family

Back together with the family today...and boy does it feel great...for everyone.  I'll be with them for 4 full days this go round, because the 4th of July is on Tuesday and our son has a dr.'s appointment in Denver on Wednesday.  Heather and I are having our usual late night adult time...only after I of course made up a new trampoline game with the kids ("rolyman"). Great day today.

Work

Work was slow...as to be expected on Saturdays when I drive out of town for an hour to transition back into Family mode.  I didn't really feel like working.  But I did however acquire another new job title today...Venue Talent Buyer.  The Coffee Shop owner has asked me to help book music shows in their event room.  I was contacted by a concert promoter who wanted to book a couple of metal-ish bands.  But the local headliners she suggested all were drenched with satanic imagery and symbolism.  I am not comfortable with the idea of booking them as a result of my own faith in Christ, and because it goes against our family friendly image we are trying to build with DFB. 

Now, I do know a Concert Promoter who amazingly has brought several great bands, whom Heather and I personally love, here to Cheyenne somehow. His name is Aaron Casey, and I met him several years back through his dad Marlin.  These guys are stand-up individuals and  I would love to work with Aaron.  His music business resume is so impressive in several different areas that I believe we may have other projects we could team up on as well...we'll see what happens.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

The balance was great today...I did start the afternoon with the family off in the doghouse though.  I had a work deadline and had to wrap something up immediately after arriving in town.  They quickly forgave me after I finished and gave them my full attention.

Wednesday, July 19, 2017

June 30, 2017 - 4th Day of FaceTime in a Row!! and Large Profit Margin

Family

Today I chatted with the kids for the 4th day in a row on FaceTime...which is what I set out to do for the week.   We were hoping that doing that would help make the week go better for everyone...and while I wouldn't say it was the only reason, I would say that it was a large contributing factor. The daily 10:45 AM FaceTime calls this kid give us an anchor to build  a consistent schedule around both for Heather and the kids…and for myself. They seem better behaved.  The children, Heather and I have all been more productive this week.

Work

Today I finished the parks and rec music class offerings for the fall.  We have opened up 76 slots for private and group lessons and classes on nearly 10 inch instruments.   The parks and rec brochure goes out to every single doorstep in the Cheyenne Wyoming area. This could potential he be huge for our lesson business. If we fill up we could be making up to $2500 a month profits right off the bat. Couple that with our big account that we landed… and we are pretty much set to open in September with a bang.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance


I think the balance between work and family is very good for us right now.  There is an adjustment period going on for me and Heather.  We have scheduled times that we are available to talk on the phone during the day, in order for us to get more done and not miss each other. This is definitely taking a lot of getting used to, but I think we’ll get the hang of it.

June 29, 2017 - Well Behaved Kids and Speaking with Concert Promoters

Family

It seemed like the girls were fairly well behaved for Heather today...save for one little girl who was acting a little loony.  We FaceTimed for the third day in a row.  It sure helped my day, but it may take a few weeks of consistency to see behavior results in the kids.

Work


Got lots of stuff done today.  Very excited.  Finished the newsletter sign-up sheet, our business cards, the schedule for the parks and rec lessons, nearly booked a show, spoke with 2 promoters.  Good day.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

70 miles.  2 days.

June 28, 2017 - Facetiming Consistently and Writing a New Song

Family

I FaceTimed with the kids again today.  That's was great.  I also had to discipline one over the phone.  She was acting crazy till I talked some sense into her.  I can't even comprehend what it's like for Heather right now. 

Work

Didn't' get as much done today as yesterday, but I did transcribe our newest song onto ukuleles.  I am very pleased with it.  It was worth focusing all of my attention on...seeing how it talks directly about our current situation.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

I think the balance is just about as good as one could expect in this scenario now.  But I am going to keep striving to make it even better of a Family leaning balance here soon...

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

June 27, 2017 - Frustrated and Side Project

Family

At 6 a.m. I departed from my family to start a new work week.  My sad kids got out of bed early just to hug me and say goodbye. I hate this.  I just want us all to be at our shop, me, wife and the kids. After all, we're supposed to be a Dunlevy FAMILY band!! Yet we don't even live together. Sorry I'm venting I'm just really frustrated today.

Work

Work was great. I got so much done using the block scheduling format. This system flowed very well. I worked on mostly F.A.M.(E.) stuff.  I am so excited about that part of this whole thing. I really think that's going to serve a couple of very big purposes for our band and our family.

The first and the best part is that it will help our family to stay strong despite a extremely busy music career schedule.  The second aspect is that I think this project is going to be what gets us the most following for our band. Through F.A.M.(E.) will be reaching out to those people who are already committed to a career in music, helping them solve a huge problem in their lives: Balancing family life with their career. We do this right and awareness grows for our band by Osmosis, gaining fans from other bands.  Talk about a great a trade off if we can get this to work.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

I did FaceTime the kids today, and plan to all week. I think it's going to help even out the balance. But it's never going to fully get better until were living together again, I feel like I’ve said that before.

June 26, 2017 - Hungry for Attention and Checking off Todo's

Family

Like a typical Monday, I had a ton of work to do.  My poor kids were desperately trying to get my attention...by causing trouble no less.  It was very sad.  I did end up playing with them outside for awhile and we ran through my lesson plan for tomorrow's Montessori class together.  But they know I'm leaving tomorrow and they absolutely do not want me to leave.

Work

I realigned my daily schedule, finished the rough draft for our Parks and Rec fall courses, finished our orientation email chain, we practiced several of our songs together and separately, delegated new tasks to the employees and revamped our todo list.  Very productive work day for sure.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance


The hardest thing about this whole thing is that I have to spend a whole lot more time on work right now in order to make this thing go a lot faster so we can get back to living together.  This severely cuts into family time.  We try to explain all this to the children, and they get it, but it's very difficult for a child process. It's hard to watch them get sad when they know I'm leaving the next day.  It takes me back to when I was their age and I would only see my father every other weekend.

June 25, 2017 - All Family, No Work

Family

We went to church today as a family.  That was awesome. They were very nice group of people, even Invited us to eat at their potluck. We pretty much hung out as a family all day, which is what I needed, and what every one else needed. 

Work
I did nothing with work today. And it felt very good.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

Our balance was great today. Lopsided towards the family just like it should be on a Sunday. Before I know it Tuesday will be here, I'll be back to 18 hour days five hours sleep.

Monday, July 17, 2017

June 24, 2017 - Family Relief and Lazy Work Day

Family

I left work early today to be with the family.  I got to them around 2pm.  I wish it was earlier, but at least it wasn't dark by the time I got there. We did our usual playing on the trampoline, reading books, relaxing with the wife, etc.  It was a great relief as always.

Work

I only had 2 students today.  Everyone else is on vacation.  I really didn't get much done...I think that'll end up being the norm for Saturdays. 

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

The balance was very Family heavy today...and that is fine with me...especially after a four day stretch of being completely lopsided to the work end of things.  I think that it'll be consistently this way on Saturdays until we are back living together.

June 23, 2017 - Fell of the Wagon and Running into old Students

Family

I already fell off the wagon with daily FaceTime calls to the kids. One day is all I could handle I  guess.  To my defense, I was on four hours asleep for the last four days each.  From what I understand, the kids were much better behaved today than they were yesterday.  Hopefully that's because we didn’t have a call.

Work

Work was pretty eventful, I scheduled two performers to start next week at the coffee shop. They were excited, Crystal the owner of the coffee shop is excited, I'm excited. It's going to really liven up the shop I think, and eventually bring us more business downstairs.

In the evening, I decided to go to the Open mic at a rival coffee shop. It was much better than usual this week, typically people aren't paying attention very well, but today the crowd was good. This guy and gal came up on stage and did a dual Vocal routine and just absolutely nailed it. They were amazing and I thought I recognized the guy. I wanted to talk to him afterwards and sure enough he was a student that I taught seven or eight years ago. The gal told me her name, and I remember that I taught her (for like 2 weeks) as well.  Hung out with them for like an hour, showed them around the shop, chatted for a little bit and parted ways. It was awesome seeing two of my former students all grown-up still pursuing music.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

I think that FaceTime meeting with the kids was good for them. I don't think that missing it today was what caused him to act so well, actually think that the FaceTime call from yesterday contributed to their good behavior today. I think it is important that I have a place to sleep in order to wake up on time.  I think if I do create a routine way around I FaceTime calls the kids are going to thrive.

June 22, 2017 - Little Button Pushers and Newsletter Work

Family

The kids are pushing Heather's buttons again but she was able to get some work done. She was able to keep them under control for most of the day. I think that may have something to do with us finally having a FaceTime session this morning.  We were all very happy about that. Obviously it didn't completely work, but I think it will take consistency. I cannot imagine making my wife a single mother. So I'm not going to.

Work

Today I worked almost exclusively on our email newsletter. I was able to get three out of four of the emails in the chain finished. One more to go. I'm very excited about this chain. It basically introduces everyone to exactly who we are and what we're doing.  And best of all it sends automatically when somebody signs up.

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance


I think the behavior problems will get a little better with daily FaceTime calls with the kids. But I think nothing is going to be solved completely until we're back together. Hopefully that’s soon…

Sunday, July 16, 2017

June 20, 2017 - Losing Minds and the Dunlevy Lonely Man Studio


Family

It was my first day of the week away from the family again. That always means the kids act nuts. They won’t listen their mom, and makes her start to lose her mind.  Then I lose my mind thinking about how I wish I was there to help.  We are so ready for this all to be over, I think all of us are.

Work

Well I started off with a long list of stuff to do, got sidetracked with work on new artist model stuff. I finished a business plan type thing for our music.  They called it the “Music Plan for Success”. It was so awesome and really made me think about certain aspects of our career and how to achieve certain goals.

Mark and Sara both also had new students today for the first time. And the students knew each other which was cool. It's kind of fun having Mark and his girlfriend around…definitely makes for an interesting dynamic.  Lots of laughter, but lots of missed laughter because Heather and the kids are missing from the Dunlevy Family Band Studio.  It's more like the "Dunlevy Lonely Man Studio".

Obstacles to a Healthy Balance

100 miles get in the way. If only I had a ton of money. I am burnt out and exhausted, I want my family and I want them now.